The Walking Wounded

Many people everywhere are struggling through life with the effects of damaged emotions.  There are individuals who are psychologically unstable, who have endured a great deal of negative things, causing untold damage that needs to be dealt with.  Some of us have difficulty in relating to others because of the hurts in our lives.  This affects the way we communicate and also the way we handle ourselves.  This is one reason why we intentionally or unintentionally hurt others.  Until we are healed from our pains, we will always have difficulty in facing life.

Through many years of helping others through this process I have come to realize that we are experts at building walls and stuffing things into dark corners, pretending they never happened.  Wounds in our heart take place when we allow unresolved past, unforgiveness, discouragement; feelings of rejection control our lives.  The hurt in our hearts will be revealed during conflicts in relationships and times of crisis.

Individuals can spend many years of their life in an abusive relationship environment, but as soon as they get away from the situation, they act as through nothing was wrong and never told anyone what had gone on in their private life.  Why do we want to bring things like that into the open?  We are afraid of what people will think.  We are afraid of being rejected, misunderstood, or unloved by those we care about or that they might have a different opinion of us if they really knew all about us.

Life realities can bring some common scars that can bring us to spiritual defeat and failure.  What follows are some suggestions for breaking the cycle of abuse in your life and for beginning the recovery and healing process.  They are easy to understand, but difficult to implement.

  • Confess your faults or tell yourself the truth
  • Work up the courage to share with someone what had happened and / or seek professional help and guidance
  • You must assume some personal responsibility and /or get out of the trap of denial
  • Set appropriate boundaries
  • Find and maintain healthy relationships
  • Face the truth and / or soak in God’s presence by reading his word daily
  • Forgive

Even though our problems may have been brought on us because of something done against our will, we have no excuse for allowing the problem to persist against our will.  We can grow and take control of our life. Our past experiences may have made us the way we are, but we do not have to stay that way.  With professional help and by following these suggestions you can break the cycle of abuse in your life and begin your healing journey.  As you reach out to God and others, you can experience God’s redemptive purpose in your life and become a channel of healing in the lives of others.  Jeremiah 29:11 “I know the plans I have for you, declare the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Make this your slogan.